It may have been on a honeymoon or when you first met, in the back of a pick-up truck or on a beach. The key is to write down as much detail as possible, even if its just in short-hand. The game is now to replicate that sex as close as you possibly can. Even if you cant reach the actual location, try your best to bring the mood back. For the aforementioned beach sex, throw the sound of the ocean onto your phone and sit it by the bed with a towel on the floor. Try to remember what time of day it was when this sex went down, the exact order of things and what you were thinking about in that moment.
What were you wearing? Where did you put your hands, your lips? Who came first? What did you do afterwards? Create a new memory and make it even better. The first is to have sex in the coldest location you can find nearby. The second is to follow that up as soon as possible in the hottest location you can find nearby. But we live in the middle of suburbia and never step foot outside the house, you say.
Even the shower works a treat. Start with it as hot as you can bear it, come and then lower the temperature as low as you can take it. This juxtaposition between cold and hot is a wonderful thing, adding a whole new wave of sensation to your love-making. You can also combine the two by taking ice cubes or cold water into a hot environment and using them on each others bodies.
The possibilities are endless. If youre lucky enough to own a sauna right next to the snow, or a spa next to the ocean, even better. A popular Cosmo variant is to do The Hot-and-Cold with oral sex only. Typically, one partner first sips on warm tea, coffee or similar and then goes down on their partner. This is followed up by the same process but with an ice cube in their mouth, fresh mint and so on. Obviously, with all variants, make sure you check temperature carefully. Burns and genitals do not mix. Youre being chased and the only way out is to have sex in the riskiest place possible without being caught.
Thats the clincher with any type of public sex. Perhaps youre already a seasoned public-sex pro. If youre starting out, even doing it in the car while its still parked in the garage can be kind of kinky. You dont have to strip down completely either. Crotch-less panties or no panties at all and a suitable skirt or long overcoat work wonders for these types of situations. If youre feeling particularly naughty, you might want to try your hand at the escalation variant whereby each location must be riskier and more public than the one before it.
How you define that is up to you, but generally the more people that are around, the riskier it is. You might even want to ask the question wheres a place we can have sex or get off surrounded by the most people?. Makes the mind boggle, doesnt it? If youre home-bound, The Open-and-Shut can be completed by heading out into your backyard for the open space and then diving back inside the closet indoors for the small space.
The timid can go from the laundry to the living room, while the adventurous might want to try their luck in the middle of a stadium and follow it up with a quickie in the lockers. Its also possible to add a value element to this challenge: one space must be rich and opulent and the other cheap and nasty. For example, you could do it in the ocean and then swim back to your overwater bungalow for cowboy action in the Jacuzzi.
If only. Heres the adult version. Both players strip down nude or wear their sexiest attire. One counts to a hundred while the other hides within the house. Once the count is up, the seeker has five minutes to find the hider. If they do, they get one minute of any sexual act they desire. If the hider is not found, the roles reverse.
For a more subtle spin, The Hide-and-Seek can also be played in a strip fashion. Every time the partner hiding is found they must remove one item of clothing. Once they are naked, the sexual favours escalate from kissing to manual stimulation to oral and then full penetration. You can also play The Hide-and-Seek with sex toys. One partner hides a sex toy of their choosing around the house.
If the other partner finds it, they get to use it in a method of their choosing for a given time period before the roles are reversed. The first is to have sex on something circular, something square, something triangular and something rectangular. Easy, right? The triangle especially is a killer for most couples, and circular beds went out of fashion along with tie dye.
The second way to play The Shape Game is with sex toys. As youve no doubt deduced, you have to use one toy that is square, one which is round, one which is rectangular and one which is triangular. They dont have to be toys purchased off the shelf either. Have a look around the kitchen, garage and study for suitable items. You may be surprised by what you can find and its now many creative uses.
The general idea with edging is to bring your partner as close to orgasm as possible without tipping them over the edge and letting them come. Repeated over and over, this can result in mind-blowingly powerful orgasms and prolonged, extremely passionate sex sessions. The main edging game is rather straightforward: the partner who holds out the longest wins. It can also be played in alternate, swapping turns Russian roulette style until one partner comes.
It can be time limited, set to an hour or even half a day for the experienced. Edging also shares many principles with Tantra, so its worth flicking through a few Tantra guides for extra insight into the art. The type of stimulation used is your decision, whether it be oral sex or penetrative. Edging can also be performed in a mutual masturbation scenario, or even in a 69, though this generally does not allow for full attention to be placed on one partner.
As with previous challenges, make sure you keep the lube up throughout. Dry handjobs suck. Its ass-play only today, folks, for both boys and girls. If youve never had anything, ahem, up there before, the absolute number one rule is to use lots of lube, start small and to go slow we mean glacier slow. Start with a single finger and work your way up. Butt plugs and anal beads can also be a tremendous aid in this challenge whereby the goal is simply to orgasm from anal stimulation alone.
Make sure the area is clean, nails trimmed nice and short, and that theres no congestion. If you dont think you can come from anal tinkering alone, a concession can be made for the receiver to masturbate. The female can rub their clit, the male can jerk off and so forth while the giver pays attention to their most taboo of orifices.
Rimming and strap-ons are definitely in the realm of the hardcore, but theres always room for experimentation. You should try everything in life at least three times before making your mind up about it. Guys who are reluctant should remember that massaging the prostate can induce especially powerful orgasms. All it takes is a single finger to get the party started. Skip the blender and look in the drawer instead. Spatulas, rolling pins and spoons all make great sex toys when used appropriately. They can be used to add pressure, to penetrate or simply to spank.
Get creative in the kitchen and serve up something your partner wont be able to resist. The first to do so in the shortest amount of time wins. It is up to the couples discretion whether they can swap fingers during this game, but traditional rules state it must be the same finger per session, so choose it wisely if youre a stickler for the rules. Remember, too, that the pen is sometimes mightier than the sword, a finger allowing very precise stimulation. Guys, you might want to check out Tim Ferriss chapter on sex in his 4-Hour Body book.
Girls, hit the glans and you cant go wrong. Its even possible to jerk your man off simply by hooking your finger around his shaft Captain Hook style. Of course, a finger can also be used to penetrate. Even the nail can be put to good use for a change in texture. Experimentation is key. That doesnt mean the first to speak an actual word, but the first to actually make any kind of vocal noise, whether it be an aaahhh or an ooohhhh or deep, guttural moan.
Muffling is not allowed. In many cases its best practice to remove all pillows and cushions from the general area. To enforce this rule even stricter, partners should maintain complete eye contact throughout or at least remain face-to-face. This is yet another game that sounds very easy in theory but is a much different story in practice. Its a mental game. Put your mind elsewhere and keep that mouth shut no matter how good it feels.
The winner of the game is free to take a prize of their own choosing. The game can also be played mutually whereby the objective is to see how long you can last as a couple without making any sound. An extremely risky operation and a mutual game, the objective is to have sex at your friends house without their knowledge.
Sneaking away as a couple is not the easiest of tasks, nor is finding a suitable bedroom or bathroom to copulate in where youll be left alone. Locking yourselves in a bathroom is all well and good, but if someone should come knocking, its game over. Youre screwed again. A great way to go about The Dinner Party is to nominate both a time and location within the house between yourselves. It looks far less suspicious this way compared to asking to be excused from the table together.
Gardens, garages, attics and laundries all make perfect love nests for this game, but be wary. A quickie is where its at without taking off any articles of clothing. You want to be in and out as fast as possible and back to party like nothing happened just with your girlfriends panties burning a hole in your pocket. Like The Covert Op, the element of getting caught out by your best friends and acquaintances pants down not only makes The Dinner Party super hot, but also super risky.
Attempt it at your own peril. Give it a go. Now find one that starts with B and try that. Cowboy is probably next, followed by Doggystyle. The goal is to work your way through the sex position alphabet letter by letter. Bonus points if you can get through the entire alphabet in one session or one day for the less adventurous, one week for the middle-roaders or one year for the really lazy.
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Some letters, such as Z and V are going to take a bit of research, so dont be scared to jump on Google, switch on incognito browsing and see whats on offer. Many people arent aware of just how much physical and athletic prowess is required to pull off many of the infamous Kama Sutra positions, so this one gets a moderate risk level. Limber up! Typically, this transitioned into seven minutes in heaven when you hit puberty, forcing you and Joanna Green into the Mathersons stuffy closet for seven minutes of awkward fumbling and sloppy French kisses.
Welcome to the adult version. Find a closet, set the timer to seven minutes and get jiggy with it. If you can orgasm as a couple within that timeframe, the game is won. The premise is simple: you sit close, naked, facing each other. One partner starts by kissing, touching and fondling the other as they desire for a minute. Once the minute is up, the other partner must mirror what they did exactly, action for action, for one minute.
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The first to break the mirrored movement or forget an action loses and must submit to the victor sexually. This back and forth allows a gradual build-up of sexual tension and each partner to dictate exactly what they want. Its also very Tantric in its appeal. You can match breathing if youre feeling especially eager. A variant of The Mirror is to both participate at the same time but working on reverse sides of each others bodies.
For example, if one partner touches the others nipple with their left hand, the receiver would respond by touching their partners nipple with their left hand. If thats too Inception for you, just remember: its just a game of copycat at its core. The partner who leaves a hole behind loses. This means that in one session the males mouth and anus must be penetrated and the females mouth, vagina and anus penetrated.
You can include the ears if you wish, snaking a tongue inside, but MVA is the usual way to go about this game. Although it sounds unfair given the female body has more orifices, it balances out if you play the at the same time rule. This requires that all holes are filled at once. In the case of the female, she might have the males tongue in her mouth, penis in her vagina and a finger in her anus. The male might have a finger in his anus, a nipple in his mouth and his penis inside the female.
Sex toys can also be added to the game in additional holes need to be filled. The giver pleasures them with an object and its up to the receiver to guess what it is. A correct answer is rewarded with oral or penetrative sex, while a wrong answer sees the roles reversed. Theres no stipulation the objects used must be regular sex toys. Articles of clothing, food, utensils and tools are all welcome. An interesting twist is to make the game body parts only. You might use your elbow or chin, a thumb or nipple. You might restrict the means of detection to oral only, both increasing and limiting the sensation at once.
Two partners lie down side by side and attempt to pleasure themselves to orgasm. The first to come wins. The question is, do you watch your partner masturbate to help get yourself off, or do you close your eyes and concentrate on yourself? Whatever course you take, this game also serves as a great way to get to know the quickest way to make your partner come, so make sure you pay attention. This challenge can also be made mutual by imposing a time limit. Both partners must make themselves orgasm within that time limit or fail and start again.
A simple stopwatch app on your phone is the best way to go about it. Start with 10 minutes, five minutes, four, three and so on. The twist is that all questions and dares must be sexually related. Good dares include lap dances, stripteases, massage, oral sex, kissing above the waist, use of a sex toy, etc. Good dare questions include whats your biggest sexual fantasy?
Keep it focussed on your relationship and you cant go wrong. The adventurous might want to step things up a bit by increasing the risk level of the dares. For example, you might want to dare your partner to run around the house naked or jerk you off by the window. You might ask them about their most embarrassing sexual moment or if theyd take X in the butt.
Make it kinky. Make it fun and you never know what new fantasies and revelations might de dredged up from the deep. Set up a music streaming service to stream songs at random. You can also set your music player to shuffle. The idea is for the song being played to be random in nature. When the music starts, the giver must either thrust if he is a male or move up and down during penetration if female in time with the music. For females then, positions like cowboy and reverse-cowboy work great, allowing you to bob up and down on your man in time with the beat.
Its important to make the distinction that the beat should be whenever the kick drum strikes in the music. Obviously, music genre and tempo play a large part in the success of this game. Dance music is often a good place to start, as it typically features a very pronounced kick drum in even, steady time at around bpm.
If you want to go really nuts, try some happy hardcore. If the music has an off and on beat you could also swing between fast and short strokes, and yes, you can also try this with toys, anal, oral and more. Plus, it can be a great way to discover new music. Try turning on the radio and doing it that way.
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The goal of the game is to make the receiver come before the song ends. Failure results in the roles being reversed. Well, youve probably guessed it has something to do with the infamous 69 position, and youd be right, but there are three ways to 69 and thus The The aim of this challenge is to come three times in a hour period using all three positions of the The first position is with the male lying flat on his back.
The female kneels over him reversed, allowing her to take him in her mouth and the male to provide her with cunnylingus.
The second position sees the female on her back and the male above her reversed. This position is excellent for deep-throating, but it does take control away somewhat from the female even though most females find it easier to orgasm when lying on their back to receive oral sex.
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The third and final position is side-by-side. This is the most equal and even position and is usually best off being used first, as it requires far less stamina and exertion than the other two positions. You can add a variant to The by making the goal the first partner to come during each session. This does, however, rely on both partners providing oral sex with equal amounts of enthusiasm. Chuck on S02E01 of The Americans if you need a refresh of what a 69 looks like. The giver chooses an object to spank the receiver with.
Its then the receivers job to guess what the object is. A correct guess sees the roles reversed. An incorrect guess is punished with increased spanking intensity, though a clue may be provided by the giver. The problem with most couples is that they simply dont spank hard enough. Theyve read 50 Shades and decided to be naughty by lightly spanking their partner with a feather duster.
Thats not how its done. You want to ride that line between pain and pleasure, hard and soft, slow and fast. Everything great in life requires this contrast. Pleasure is heightened by the pain and struggle that comes before it. Thus, its up to you how far you want to take this game. If you see blood or broken skin, though, its time to stop. What can you use to spank with? Whatever you want. Try spanking and whipping in equal measure.
Try something flimsy, like a T-shirt, and then something hard like a book. Blindfold the receiver to eliminate any chance of foul play. Another way to play The Spanking Game is to provide relief as the reward for a correct answer. The idea is to choose a close couple you know and role-play how you think theyd have sex. Each partner becomes the doppelganger of a partner in the couple youve chosen. We never know what other people are like when theyre behind closed doors, so its extra fun to imagine them as super-kinky swingers or worse. Maybe they are, or maybe theyre very shy and timid, almost virginal in their fucking.
Try and pick up on their body language and small nuances. Everyone has them. A better way to go about it is to actually spend time with the couple beforehand doing a regular activity but paying close attention to how they act. You can then put this valuable research to bed later when you play The Doppelganger. The brave might want to give a sibling or even their parents a go. Pick your most prissy, puckeredhole friends and try them, or how about using a couple you absolutely despise?
That can also be a lot of fun and an interesting way to get your anger out during a bit of rough play. They continue coitus as normal but eye contact must be maintained at all times. The first partner to look away or break eye contact loses. This game generally works on a points system whereby the partner who has the lower score does not break contact the most gets to choose a reward, or come. The beauty of The Eye Game is not only that it helps you connect as a couple, but its increasing difficulty as you near climax.
For some reason, we feel a natural need to close our eyes as orgasm approaches, so it can be quite difficult to work against it. In regular format, blinking is allowed, though you can disregard this rule if you want a truly taxing version of The Eye Game or a quickie. Take an ice cube and use it on your partners body. You have until the ice cube melts to make them come. If not, the roles are reversed. How you wish to use the cube is up to you.
Girls can run it around their SOs shaft, his balls or down his navel. Guys can physically use is to wet their partners labia and vulva, tease their clit and then physically insert it inside their vagina. The nipples, too, are a perfect place to start. The ice cube must be used alone, but if you find this version too difficult you can allow another body part into the mix, such as a finger, hand, lips or a tongue.
You could even try taking the ice cube in your mouth and then performing oral sex on your partner. Ice cubes melt faster than you think on the human body, so you need to work fast for this challenge. Another way to tackle it is to allow a certain period of foreplay before the ice is introduced, say, 10 minutes. This warming-up period, following by the cool, crisp bite of the cube and its icy anticipation, is usually enough to send most players right over the edge.
Youll also need a ton of lubricant or oil for this challenge, keeping in mind that if theres going to be penetration involved that the lubricant is water-based and wont damage condoms. In practice, this is a sort of horny Greco Roman wrestling where fingering and grinding are all allowed while you flop together.
You can twist it up and have actual penetrative penis-in-vagina sex while attempting to wrestle each other off without breaking contact, but see the warning below. However you go about it, The Superlube is a heap of fun that will open up a host of new sensations. If you have actual gym or yoga mats to line the perimeter with, perfect, as hard floors are never too much fun to fall on, even while youre getting your clit strummed.
Warning: Care must be taken during this challenge when penile penetration is involved. Its very possible to damage an erect penis if one partner falls awkwardly or sharply adjusts position, made all the more likely when copious amounts of lube are involved. Be careful, folks. It doesnt have to be a long distance thing, though. You could each take your phones into different rooms of the house or even rooms next door to each other. The idea is to get your phone-sex voice on and dirty talk up to get your partner off in the quickest possible time with your voice alone.
If youre struggling, make it a rule that both partners must close their eyes during the challenge. They are free to masturbate how they wish, but closing your eyes helps you concentrate on the other party and your own body without outside interference. A variant is to allow short videos and images to be sent. Services like Snapchat help here, but dont make it too overt. Keep the images cropped and teasing at first, gradually working your way up to more explicit stuff. Another variant is to allow text messages only whereby each message contains a set of instructions for the other partner to follow.
One receiver lies down and food is placed strategically on their genitals and body. Its the givers task to eat the food without dropping or spilling any. If they do, the roles are reversed. Sushi and sashimi are the traditional geisha way, eaten with chopsticks, but you can easily create your own theme, such as desserts or fruits. Whipped cream is a classic, as are strawberries, chocolate and all manner of aphrodisiacs. Hot, savoury elements dont tend to be as sexy, but if you and your partner are keen on a bucket of the Colonels finest eaten off your crotch, feel free.
Placement is critical here. You want to target erogenous areas of the body that allow a subtle lick of the clit here and a bob of the cock there while you go about lapping, eating and spooning the food into your mouth. The general rule is no hands, but you may want to add a form of extra manual stimulation to speed up proceedings. In the biz, we call this the Fast Food. Write down six sexual acts for one dice and six for another.
For example, kiss above the waist for one minute, go down on me for five minutes, put a finger inside me, give me a back massage, etc. In this kinky Yahtzee the dice are rolled and the two corresponding acts must be performed simultaneously. If one dice comes up a six, corresponding to massaging your partners foot, and the other dice comes up a two, corresponding to oral sex, the two have to be performed together oral sex while giving a foot massage. The Double-Double thus provides you with a fresh way to look at sex acts by mixing them up and throwing them in together.
You might well find a combination thats irresistible. You can add a third or even fourth dice into the mix, or play this game with cards by assigning a sex act to clubs, kings, spades and diamonds and others to the numerical value. That obviously requires a longer list, but by now coming up with weird and wonderful sexual moves should be easily in your range. It is up to the other partner to guess what each body part is. Correct answers can either be awarded points or with sexual activity.
You can also incorporate the photos themselves, ie. Kiss, suck or lick the body part in the photo when youve guessed it. The trick is to make the photos abstract and unidentifiable at first glance. This will allow you to get nice and intimate. Even an armpit can look entirely different when photographed without context. Note that its never a wise idea to leave naked selfies lying around in your phone.
Be sure to delete them after use. For an analogue twist, why not use an instant film camera and destroy the photos afterwards? It lends a nice, porny touch to proceedings. In that challenge neither partner could touch the floor. In the redux version, only one partner, the giver, can touch the floor. The other partners feet must never touch the ground. This opens up a range of sexual possibility.
You can try sex against a wall, in the shower, one partner reclining on a bench or the edge of a bed. Maybe you can put that trampoline to better use? Females may find this game more difficult than males, but its entirely possible with a little bit of thought. The clit and head of the penis are common choices, but try and think out of the box, looking at areas like the mystical g-spot and prostate gland. Even working on a solitary nipple for 10 minutes can be enough to make some individuals come. The Inch is all about getting to know your partners body intimately.
Its more about the journey than the result, but that doesnt mean you cant add in relevant stakes and prizes. Again, make sure you have ample lubricant on hand and use all elements of your body mouth, genitals, hands, feet if you are the giver to induce maximum pleasure. The Scrabble revolves entirely around oral sex. The giver tries to spell out a word on their lovers genitals using the tip of their tongue. The receiver must guess the word, or the letter for a simpler variant.
A variation is for the word to spell out the reward if the receiver guesses it right. For example, anal. Multiple words can also be stringed together to make a complete sentence. Once the receiver guesses the full sentence correctly, they are entitled to the reward it describes, ie. The Scrabble is usually performed against the females clit and the shaft or head of the males penis, but this allows little area to manoeuvre.
It can be a good idea to expand the playing field to include the stomach, inner thigh and so on, which provides a much broader canvas to work on. Turn the lights off and use the flashlights to light up areas of your body you want your partner to suck, lick or fuck. In turn, they use their flashlight to see what theyre doing. Its best when playing The Void to start with foreplay-based activities and move onto penetration only later on. You can also start at the top of your body and work your way down. For a twist, combine it with hide-and-seek by turning the lights off and then moving to different areas of the room.
Only once your partner finds you with their flashlight can the game begin. The Exhibitionist puts it to the extreme by awarding the flasher points for every time they flash, with different levels of points for revealing breasts, butt or genitals to their partner. This is another exceptionally fun game to play at dinner parties when your friends are otherwise engaged.
The female could, for example, turn away while her friends are engaged in conversation and lift her skirt to flash the male her panty-less crotch. The male might stealthily pull out his member around the corner. Its an exhibitionist game of cat and mouse very similar to our next challenge, The Touch. In fact, both can be incorporated together, with points and combos allocated accordingly.
The more public the arena for The Exhibitionist, obviously the greater the level of risk. This might mean new lingerie, maybe it is one of his dress shirts without anything underneath! Whatever it is your husband will love it and those sparks will fly! Okay, so I am not one to get all dressed fancy on a daily occasion, but let me tell you, ladies, this works! When you are heading to bed, rather than taking off your makeup and throwing your hair in a ponytail, do the opposite!
Fix your makeup and curl your hair! Then go hop into bed and you can almost guarantee that there will be some action happening! Massages are always a great way to spice up the bedroom. Use massage oil or coconut oil. If you need some massage techniques, check out this video!
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