I enjoyed reading aboutall things Indian but was bored with the writing. Not my favorite shall we say. Maybe this is a YA book that you really need to be YA to read. Only read for a book club. Don't recommend. This book was a little bit angsty for me. But that's because, as a POC it's hard to watch the character in the story having a white best friend who most def doesnt understand the position of someone of color who might feel inadequate in a world made to cater to white people.
In this case Dimple, who is Indian, feels out of place and inferior. Especially to her best friend who is white. But the most irking thibg is, somehow Dimple's best friend blames her for everything. Complaining about how she This book was a little bit angsty for me. Complaining about how she feels inadequate or whatever, and it's just like Such BS. I don't feel like Dimple really got to tell off her friend, who clearly was trynna take everything away, whether it was done consciously or not.
I would go into more detail about why this book was angsty, or certain scenes where just so hard to read, but it would be too much. I don't wanna go that deep. Hopefully this is a coherent enough review. Though this book had my heart squeezed for a long period of segments, I will be reading the sequel, Bombay Blues.
Shelves: 0wn4g3 , top , the-honored , read-as-child. It's only been a few years since I bought this book, and my copy's already been reread about four times. Let me put this in perspective: I rarely reread books. Once every three years is the maximum. But I cannot get enough of this book. The characters are realistic and compelling, with their own loves, histories and compulsions.
Love is never simple in books, but Tanuja Desai Hidier reaches into your soul and makes you feel every emotion acutely. Summer tends to put me in the mood for this book. First of all, it remains as good as when I first picked it up. Now that I'm older, I think I can say that this book informed my high school years as Gary Paulsen's "The Island" informed my elementary school ones. Dimple's voice is that of someone who feels like an outsider, yet always looks at the world with awe - something I've always aspired to do.
The search for identity and belonging, the need to grow, confusion about love and friendship And though I no longer feel lost or confused, this book still reminds me of who I wanted - and still want - to be. It is not just the fact that I identified so closely with this book that made me like it so much. Or maybe it is. Maybe the fact that the book so blithely talked about something that was close to my own reality that made me prize it above others. Or her juxtaposition with the best friend who is in search for a culture and finds one, the very one that Dimple is so determined to It is not just the fact that I identified so closely with this book that made me like it so much.
Or her juxtaposition with the best friend who is in search for a culture and finds one, the very one that Dimple is so determined to throw away. Or perhaps it is just the sheer mastery of her prose, her compelling plot, all of which contain elements that will make you love Born Confused whether or not you identify with the heroine. I recommend it to anyone who has felt a little lost while trying to hang on to what they have while trying to catch a hold of what they could have before realizing that you have to let something go before you can have something else.
Yes, I know, convoluted sentence but you get what I mean. There's something about this book.
I first read it in eight grade, and when I did, I didn't like it. I am not entirely sure why. Maybe it was the format or the style. I doubt it had to do with the characters or the plot-line. Either way, I didn't like it. But once I finished it, it stuck with me. Some conversation would remind me of it, or such. It has stuck with me for the past three years. So, since it was so unforgettable, I decided to give it another go.
This time I liked it a lot, but it was There's something about this book. This time I liked it a lot, but it wasn't incredible, or mind blowing, or cathartic. The characters were engaging, certainly, and sympathetic, but not astounding. The plot was kind of average, from the beginning you can guess what is going to happen. The writing was pleasant, but not particularly new or different. So, I don't really know why I liked it so much, or why it has stuck with me for so long.
But it has, so there has to be something more to it than I can figure out. It was very real, definitely. Maybe that's it. All in all, I would recommend it to everyone and anyone. I felt like I really related to it more from the South Asian American college student perspective I liked the relationship between the narrator and her parents Born Confused is an inspiring novel about a girl trying to find herself.
Dimple Lala is stuck between two cultures, Indian and American, and never feels like she is enough of either. Then to complicate things, her parents decide to set up an arranged marriage with a "suitable boy. The descriptions in this book are nothing short of magnificent, and they drag you Born Confused is an inspiring novel about a girl trying to find herself. The descriptions in this book are nothing short of magnificent, and they drag you in so wholly that you forget that this is just a story. Read this book! It generalizes indians so much and the main character??
I read this in my teens and remember feeling as if I shouldn't be I don't know why but enjoying it a lot. Completely forgot what it was called until now. Must read again! One of those books that I don't quite like entirely, but that is long enough that I felt attached to it by the end.
It's a little flat and angst-driven. One of the best books I have read--I can't do it justice but to say, just read it. I would like to thank NetGalley and Push for granting me the opportunity to read eARC in exchange for an honest review. Though I received this e-book for free that in no way impacts my review. I give this book 3. Her parents are fro I would like to thank NetGalley and Push for granting me the opportunity to read eARC in exchange for an honest review. Her parents are from India, and she's spent her whole life resisting their traditions. Then suddenly she gets to high school and everything Indian is trendy.
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To make matters worse, her parents arrange for her to meet a "suitable boy. This is a funny, thoughtful story about finding your heart, finding your culture, and finding your place in America. What I like About This Story: This is a lovely story about figuring out who you are, or at least the first solid steps, since we are continually evolving throughout our lives. Dimple's best friend is her opposite. Gwyn is tall, thin, with blond hair and blue eyes. She is the American ideal. And to top it off she has the personality to match, outgoing, bubbly, open, engaging, effervescent.
In short Dimple thinks Gwyn is incandescent, the bees-knees, the sunshine under which she flourishes. Dimple considers herself to be a wallflower, as she never seems to know what to say, or what to wear for that matter. It doesn't help her already stunted self-esteem that she has womanly curves.
Not slightly curves, but all-out hourglass curves. And when she looks around she sees white girls that are tall and thin, thin, thin. So she is constantly comparing herself to Gwyn and others like her and coming up short, so to speak. She doesn't feel like an American, but she doesn't feel like an Indian either, so she feels as if there is no place she fits. Dimple is sweet and wholesome. Her character is so naive that it's to the point of almost being too over the top. But she has a good heart. Once her blinders start coming off she becomes an even more enjoyable character.
Even Dimple's cousin and parents show insecurities that sail right over her oblivious head. Yet each girl is so wrapped up in their own internal insecurities they are blind to the fact that everyone else is going through the same thing at some level. Neither girl recognizes that they are envious of one another. Eventually things come to a head and the two girls finally let out some of their frustration, anger, and accumulated slights that they attribute to the other. This serves to illustrate how bad it is to keep your feelings bottled up, yet it also shows that you will survive airing things out with the party causing them, even if it means risking permanent damage to the relationship.
Karsh, Kavita, and Zara Thustra who can resist a character named after part of the title of a Friedrich Neitzchie book? Each help Dimple find herself in one manner or another. And each is also flawed to some degree, some more than others. A series of events happen that make Dimple finally look around, really pay attention to the world and people in her sphere. This in turn leads to a cascade of mini-epiphanies almost daily, and with each one another piece of her life falls into a more comfortable relationship with the rest of her. Suddenly she discovers connections where she'd never before noticed them, opening up her eyes to her own personal growth as well as the growth of those around her.
Growth and changes that are not solely limited to her age group either. It frequently felt as if Gwyn was simply taking advantage of Dimple - "borrowing" and of her clothes that she liked, doing the same with Dimple's jewelry, even going so far as to try to appropriate her very culture and 'be more Indian.
Though this behavior is explained, somewhat, that still didn't seem to justify her treatment of such a loyal friend. Conversely I wanted Dimple to wake up and smell the coffee. It astounded me how she let Gwyn walk all over her. If she did get frustrated she stuffed it down deep and went right back to basking in the glow that was Gwyn.
Dimple was clearly partly to blame for Gwyn's treatment of her. Although Karsh was wonderful I was a wee bit disappointed that the story was set up so that Dimple's happiness hinged on "getting her man. My final pet peeve was two-fold: the frequent use of non-English words that were not explained or made clear by their context, and the tremendous amount of typos. One can only hope the typos are restricted to the ebook and not the print version. Plus, this is an advance release copy, so hopefully all the typographical errors will be cleaned up before the release of the final product.
Overall Impression: A wonderful, meaningful story about coming to terms with growing up. The fact that the lessons weren't restricted to just one age group or ethnicity was a very nice bonus, as it helped demonstrate that we all struggle with many of the same issues. They may not be exactly the same, but odds of finding someone who isn't going through the same thing, or went through it, are slim to none. There are some sections where Ms. Tanuja Desai Hidier crafted some remarkable phrases, creating absolutely vivid images that made the entire book come to life.
One such example is as follows - History wasn't that easy a thing to learn, seemed to be what I was learning. It wasn't a static story about dead people. It was a revolving door fraught with ghosts still straining to tell their version and turn your head, multifaceted and blinding as a cut diamond. All in all I found this to be a great teaching book, without feeling like you are being preached to or deliberately taught any lessons. I would certainly recommend this book for high school libraries not middle school due to some discussions about sex, as well as underage drinking and one incident of drug use.
Born Confused by Tanuja Desai Hidier | Scholastic
I've been holding back on writing a review for this book. There's just so much I want to say about it that I'm not sure if I am capable of verbalizing how much I really adore it. Dimple is American but also Indian, and she has a difficult time fitting in as an American teenager who can't escape her Indian heritage. She has a best friend, Gwen Sexton, who she grew up with and considers her twin since both gi I've been holding back on writing a review for this book.
She has a best friend, Gwen Sexton, who she grew up with and considers her twin since both girls have no siblings and were basically joined at the hips when they were kids, even if Gwen is tall, lean and blonde and Dimple is shorter, curvy, and has the typical Asian black hair. Our story starts on the last day of school, when Dimple turns We get to see Dimple's journey into finding herself in the summer through her adventures with trying to keep up with the ever drifting Gwen, and getting to know an Indian boy named Karsh Kapoor, the son of one her parents' friends, who she originally passed off as "unsuitable".
I identified with the struggles of being too American for my parents' liking, and as I grew older, realized that perhaps my family's culture isn't as lame as I had thought. I think Tanuja Desai Hidier really captured the "confused" aspect of an American born ethnic kid really well, especially those of us who still have family ties to the "mother land" and our own parents did not grow up in America. I could see Hidier put a lot of own teenage identity into Dimple. But what she is also fantastic at capturing is the complications that come in close friendships once we begin to grow up.
Growing up, I had my own "Gwen", and like all teenagers, we both grew up and began finding our own identities, but it just felt like she my "Gwen" was so much better at it than I was. Also, the fact that it seemed like she wanted me around less and less was tough to deal with.
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The only difference is, there was no boy there to really separate us the way this book had both Dimple and Gwen interested in Karsh. But, I did like that this book did not sugarcoat the idea of one boy seeming to drive two friends apart, nor did it seem too dramatic most times. I usually hate I mean really hate love triangles in romances because it is so overdone now and it is usually only used as a weak excuse for there to be any sort of conflict, but in this story, I felt it worked fairly well.
It wasn't just that a boy came between their friendship, but that the boy coming between was the breaking point. There were a lot of things that had already happened that our two friends had reached that point and Hidier didn't gloss over all of those things. Both Dimple and Gwen are forced to face their changing relationship near the end of the book, and it was refreshing to read two growing young women speak with one another about the way they made each other feel, not just about the boy that came between them.
Personally, I think we need more stories about platonic best friends and the real pleasures and challenges that come with it, because we don't get enough looks into those kinds of relationships. Which is odd because a lot of people tend to say that at points both men and women will choose to stick by their friends first yet we often only see the surface value of these things. We don't get a real hard look at why these friendships are valued so much, nor that it can be difficult to want to be there for someone who you love as your own flesh and blood but they can sometimes be unreasonable.
But I digress. However, back to Dimple and Gwen, at the same time, I did feel like by the story's end the resolution between Dimple and Gwen seemed a little too neat for my liking, but I can forgive it because, again, this type of relationship isn't looked at deeply enough, so I'll take what I can get.
At times I felt like shouting at Dimple for letting so much happen and not speak up for herself, but I would sit back and admit that when I was her age if I was in a situation like hers', I probably would have chosen to keep my mouth shut as well. Also, this is addressed in the story when Dimple goes on a late night adventure alone in New York City. I have read in some of the reviews that Hidier's descriptions were heavy and long at times, I really liked them. She has a way of describing Dimple's world so vividly that when I closed my eyes, I was in it.
But it could just be that I really adore the Indian culture that I loved Hidier's descriptions so much. I want to add in my own thoughts on Dimple's relationship with Karsh, which I found was beautifully written. Here is a couple I could really find myself rooting for. Like how he pretended that there was no sheet music so Dimple wouldn't have to play the piano, or how he left his shoes for Dimple after they heard the story of Ramayana.
'Flagship' South Asian Young Adult Novel 'Born Confused' Still Resonates After 15 Years
I also will say, I basically loved how every character was portrayed and how well all the relationships between the characters was done so realistically and I really freaking adore how Hidier was able to tie in Dimple's Indian culture into her American way of life and into her relationship with everyone important to her and major kudos for spinning in the more Western life shaping her relationship with her cousin Kavita.
And yeah, I really liked Kavita. If this ever gets a film adaptation, I wouldn't want the author's message or Dimple's world to be changed so much that it no longer is the ABCD story it's meant to be. I felt like I rambled a lot, so to shorten it, I really love this book. The second book in the international bestselling Hunger Games series is now a feature film coming Have you always wanted to write a book, but don't know where to start? Or maybe you're really The thrilling conclusion to 1 bestselling Shiver trilogy from Maggie Stievater.
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Dimple feels a certain sense of resentment when her blonde best friend, Gwyn, wants to borrow bindis , bangles and saris. We are living in a time when Indian culture is far trendier than it ever used to be. What was once repugnant is now desirable.